There are few times that I really feel angry inside... but that is easily stirred up with anything that concerns kids i guess (as i've realized these last few days). My heart and passion and just so much of why i love what i do is because of kids, who they are, their innocence, their joy, passion, and living in and for the moment.. and just i plain love em..
I have been thinking about this all for the past few days and feeling my heart get stirred up and so many thoughts entering into my mind as i replay this all and think on it.....
drop into this conversation for a few minutes with me and give me your thoughts... seriously i really want to know what others think and maybe i'm just going crazy...
scene... um a local bathroom in a store *yes i know that sounds odd*
Act one...
In walks a mother and her daughter who looks to be about 5-6
and i hear
" no , no that is not what i told you to do"- as she's holding her daughters hand kind of pulling her by the arm
Little girl -"but mom all the other kids were having ice cream and her mom said it was okay. it was a party and that it would be alright for me to...."
The mom goes on to basically um reprimaind her child for having ice cream at her best friends birthday party... telling her there are no just this one time, or that a party is a reason for her to have it..
at this point i'm kind of like wow,just kind of shocked...
she goes to to tell her that she will never be skinny and pretty if she keeps this up....
that ice cream is bad and doesn't she want to look pretty in her clothes? well they aren't gonna fit her if she keeps this up..... and if she really wants this than she can't be like all the other lil girls having ice cream who's moms don't care enough to tell them it's bad for them.....
*breath*
i felt like i walked into this lady's home or something, and felt as if i was in the way of her slamming her child... and i stood there like oh man this is so so sad...
this little girl was beautifuly seriously and yet her little sad face is etched in my mind as she was looking down at the ground....
Then the mom is looking at me looking at them in the mirror as i'm washing my hands... and i just was so upset inside and thought you know normally what i would do is um act like i didn't hear anything and get out of there maybe? but like i felt so convicted and so i dunno like pressed to just say something so i looked at the little girl looking at me now and said "hey i really like that dress you have on" and she looked up at me and said "really?" and i just kind of smiled and said yeah you look really pretty and she smiled really big and said thanks.. and the mom just glared at me pretty much... and went on her way yankin her daughter along and telling her daughter this and that....
Maybe it's just the combination of alot of things in the last few weeks for me... seeing kids who want and crave their parents love and attention so much... or hearing this mom totally putting down her child in a bathroom ... a zillion thoughts go through my mind.. don't you know how much you are hurting your child... can't you see in her eyes how much she wants to do what you want... to be the best for you... don't you see how much damage you are doing?? so beyond the surface so beyond what she looks like but right to the core of her heart and who she is, who she will grow up to be and how she is going to feel about herself.....
ahhhhh like i just felt so angry and still do thinking on this all , i wish i could have done something more, i wished i could have said you know what your daughter is beautiful just the way she is... she has her whole life to worry about being fat and whether she can eat ice cream.. yet now she's feeling guilty for having fun at a party.... and ughh i dunno... but all the things she was saying i was thinking if you do this in public what do you do or say to her at home... just all this weird stuff goes through my mind i guess i dunno.
so would anyone else think this was weird or is it just me and my emotions of the last week and etc?
I can't explain it... how much i see at work everday the effects of kids who know they are loved and whos parents make time for them even if it's just a little each day to spend with them and... what a diffrence it makes in how they feel about themselves already even at such a young age and the way they see life and relate to their lil friends....what they are mimicing and just yeah i dunno guys this is pressed on me so heavily....
Flip to a totally different scenerio
It's ironic or not more just God then the total opposite side of this... the very patient loving mom i heard in a friend this week....
i was calling someone this week when their little child answered the phone... first without saying anything and i heard things going on in the background so i knew it had gotten picked up and i heard a lil whispered "hello" so the phone was left off the hook without the parent even knowing it... and as i sat there after i heard this lil voice ... and i basically um easedropped into their day.... I would expect nothing less than this from this person... she's one of the best moms i know in the world... but who she is and was with someone watching or listening is totally the same as who she is to her sweet lil one , loving patient and kind, when someone is listening and she has no idea....
I thought of this conversation from earlier in the week at the store... and sat thinking and listening to the patient and kind and sweet loving and encouraging words of this mom ... and obviously what a huge difference, but it just made me get tears in my eyes as i thought, at the end of the day nothng else really matters when you have loved your child well and they know it....
of course there will be hard times and times of correction etc but it without a doubt i know would never change this mom's love for her child.. just like God's love for us doesn't change....
it made me think of this song and i'll end this.. but really let me know what you think about this all if you have a minute i'd love to hear your thoughts! jenny , kim and laura,- you all are wonderful moms!!
"You're up all night with a screaming baby
You run all day at the speed of life
And every day you feel a little bit less
Like the beautiful woman you are
So you fall into bed when you run out of hours
And you wonder if anything worth doing got done
Oh, maybe you just don't know
Or maybe you've forgotten
You, you are changing the world
One little heartbeat at a time
Making history with every touch and every smile
Oh, you, you may not see it now
But I believe that time will tell
How you, you are changing the world
One little heartbeat at a time
With every "I know you can do it"
Every tear that you kiss away
So many little things that seem to go unnoticed
They're just like the drops of rain over time
They become a river
And you, you are changing the world
One little heartbeat at a time
Making history with every touch and every smile
Oh, you, you may not see it now
But I believe that time will tell
How you, you are changing the worldOne little heartbeat at a time
You're beautiful
You're beautiful
How you're changing the world
You're changing the world
You, you are changing the world
One little heartbeat at a time
Making history with every touch and every smile
Oh, you, you may not see it now
But I believe that time will tellHow you, you are changing the world
Oh, I believe that youYou are changing the world
One little heartbeatAt a time
And you're changing the world"
I have been thinking about this all for the past few days and feeling my heart get stirred up and so many thoughts entering into my mind as i replay this all and think on it.....
drop into this conversation for a few minutes with me and give me your thoughts... seriously i really want to know what others think and maybe i'm just going crazy...
scene... um a local bathroom in a store *yes i know that sounds odd*
Act one...
In walks a mother and her daughter who looks to be about 5-6
and i hear
" no , no that is not what i told you to do"- as she's holding her daughters hand kind of pulling her by the arm
Little girl -"but mom all the other kids were having ice cream and her mom said it was okay. it was a party and that it would be alright for me to...."
The mom goes on to basically um reprimaind her child for having ice cream at her best friends birthday party... telling her there are no just this one time, or that a party is a reason for her to have it..
at this point i'm kind of like wow,just kind of shocked...
she goes to to tell her that she will never be skinny and pretty if she keeps this up....
that ice cream is bad and doesn't she want to look pretty in her clothes? well they aren't gonna fit her if she keeps this up..... and if she really wants this than she can't be like all the other lil girls having ice cream who's moms don't care enough to tell them it's bad for them.....
*breath*
i felt like i walked into this lady's home or something, and felt as if i was in the way of her slamming her child... and i stood there like oh man this is so so sad...
this little girl was beautifuly seriously and yet her little sad face is etched in my mind as she was looking down at the ground....
Then the mom is looking at me looking at them in the mirror as i'm washing my hands... and i just was so upset inside and thought you know normally what i would do is um act like i didn't hear anything and get out of there maybe? but like i felt so convicted and so i dunno like pressed to just say something so i looked at the little girl looking at me now and said "hey i really like that dress you have on" and she looked up at me and said "really?" and i just kind of smiled and said yeah you look really pretty and she smiled really big and said thanks.. and the mom just glared at me pretty much... and went on her way yankin her daughter along and telling her daughter this and that....
Maybe it's just the combination of alot of things in the last few weeks for me... seeing kids who want and crave their parents love and attention so much... or hearing this mom totally putting down her child in a bathroom ... a zillion thoughts go through my mind.. don't you know how much you are hurting your child... can't you see in her eyes how much she wants to do what you want... to be the best for you... don't you see how much damage you are doing?? so beyond the surface so beyond what she looks like but right to the core of her heart and who she is, who she will grow up to be and how she is going to feel about herself.....
ahhhhh like i just felt so angry and still do thinking on this all , i wish i could have done something more, i wished i could have said you know what your daughter is beautiful just the way she is... she has her whole life to worry about being fat and whether she can eat ice cream.. yet now she's feeling guilty for having fun at a party.... and ughh i dunno... but all the things she was saying i was thinking if you do this in public what do you do or say to her at home... just all this weird stuff goes through my mind i guess i dunno.
so would anyone else think this was weird or is it just me and my emotions of the last week and etc?
I can't explain it... how much i see at work everday the effects of kids who know they are loved and whos parents make time for them even if it's just a little each day to spend with them and... what a diffrence it makes in how they feel about themselves already even at such a young age and the way they see life and relate to their lil friends....what they are mimicing and just yeah i dunno guys this is pressed on me so heavily....
Flip to a totally different scenerio
It's ironic or not more just God then the total opposite side of this... the very patient loving mom i heard in a friend this week....
i was calling someone this week when their little child answered the phone... first without saying anything and i heard things going on in the background so i knew it had gotten picked up and i heard a lil whispered "hello" so the phone was left off the hook without the parent even knowing it... and as i sat there after i heard this lil voice ... and i basically um easedropped into their day.... I would expect nothing less than this from this person... she's one of the best moms i know in the world... but who she is and was with someone watching or listening is totally the same as who she is to her sweet lil one , loving patient and kind, when someone is listening and she has no idea....
I thought of this conversation from earlier in the week at the store... and sat thinking and listening to the patient and kind and sweet loving and encouraging words of this mom ... and obviously what a huge difference, but it just made me get tears in my eyes as i thought, at the end of the day nothng else really matters when you have loved your child well and they know it....
of course there will be hard times and times of correction etc but it without a doubt i know would never change this mom's love for her child.. just like God's love for us doesn't change....
it made me think of this song and i'll end this.. but really let me know what you think about this all if you have a minute i'd love to hear your thoughts! jenny , kim and laura,- you all are wonderful moms!!
"You're up all night with a screaming baby
You run all day at the speed of life
And every day you feel a little bit less
Like the beautiful woman you are
So you fall into bed when you run out of hours
And you wonder if anything worth doing got done
Oh, maybe you just don't know
Or maybe you've forgotten
You, you are changing the world
One little heartbeat at a time
Making history with every touch and every smile
Oh, you, you may not see it now
But I believe that time will tell
How you, you are changing the world
One little heartbeat at a time
With every "I know you can do it"
Every tear that you kiss away
So many little things that seem to go unnoticed
They're just like the drops of rain over time
They become a river
And you, you are changing the world
One little heartbeat at a time
Making history with every touch and every smile
Oh, you, you may not see it now
But I believe that time will tell
How you, you are changing the worldOne little heartbeat at a time
You're beautiful
You're beautiful
How you're changing the world
You're changing the world
You, you are changing the world
One little heartbeat at a time
Making history with every touch and every smile
Oh, you, you may not see it now
But I believe that time will tellHow you, you are changing the world
Oh, I believe that youYou are changing the world
One little heartbeatAt a time
And you're changing the world"
3 comments:
Oh my, that is just awful that that girl's mom was talking to her that way. I am glad you were in there at the same time. You have such a sweet heart, Jodi, and you never know how much that compliment meant to that little girl. She might even remember it for a LONG time. Yes, I definitely would be bothered by it too. I told Todd about it and he said maybe she is a stage mom and the girl is in beauty pageants or something...very sad to think about why someone would make their kids feel so bad like that. I would never put Ellie in any kind of contest like that -- even something simple, just because I wouldn't ever want to give her the impression that outside beauty is what matters.
Those lyrics are so beautiful! I just searched it to find out who sings it because i had never heard it before. Thank you for putting that on here, I really needed to hear that. Thanks Jodi!! Oh and I am loving how often you are writing on your blog now! :)
Jodi,
I would have been as upset with you about the comment that the mother made to her child. I am reading a book now called Hold on to Your Children and it is really something to think about. By turning this child from the source that is suppose to love her, be here grounding and soft place to fall her mother is setting her up for a life that would be made so much easier by a loving touch and a kind word. This is why people like you are so important in the world. I have no doubt that this girl will hold your words close to her heart.
Katrina
Awwww that is sooo sad. :( Poor little girl- that mom should be so ashamed of herself. I cannot imagine ever saying something like that to my 5 or 6 year old. That just totally breaks my heart.
And thanks for the encouragement. :) It means a lot.
Love you,
Laura
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